November 6, 2018
Adjusting to life and its changes during a divorce is usually not easy. It can often lead to a sense of loneliness, sadness, chronic stress and sometimes depression.
Depression caused by a traumatic event, such as a divorce, is called situational depression. Some of the symptoms one might experience with situational depression are:
● loss of appetite
● loss of interest in activities and hobbies you used to enjoy
● trouble sleeping
● crying spells
● difficulty concentrating and/or staying on task
● feelings of loneliness and hopelessness
There are many actionable tips to help you build yourself back up again after your divorce and defunct that depression.
Try a new pastime – If you have no desire to work on those old projects that you have started or the hobbies that you used to love don’t interest you anymore, try something new. Read a book, learn to knit or crochet a scarf, take an exercise class, do something that will require your full attention to detail. This will suppress your depressing thoughts for at least a little while.
Change up your routine – Volunteer at a local hospital or animal shelter for a few hours a day/week to get out of the house, smile, meet new people and be part of a fresh new environment.
Journal your thoughts – Write down your thoughts and feelings and don’t hold back. You are able to say exactly how you feel and not worry about who is listening and how someone will respond. Try writing a goodbye letter to everything and everyone that isn’t the same now that you’re divorcing. You do not have to send the letter and in the end, you can destroy it or burn it and let those feelings go. As you discover, and you will, the good things in your new life, you can write a hello letter and welcome all that is good into your world.
Treat you, like you want to be treated – Pamper yourself with a new hairstyle or even a new hair color. Your life is not the same and neither are you, dare to discover the new you. Talk to you like you would want someone else to talk to you, do not put yourself down. Lift yourself up and address you with inspiration and pride. You are Awesome!!
Clean Out and Organize – Clean out the drawers, closets, and other areas of your home that may still contain your ex's possessions, and replace them with new stuff. Your stuff. Take your time, you don't have to do it all at once. The memories that these articles bring to mind, can then be boxed and given away to make room for the new memories you are about to create.
Accept Help – If you have folks that are willing to lend you a hand when you need it, take it. You can return the favor when you are back on your feet. If you are building a new community of friends, this is a good way to start.
There are many feelings to process after a divorce. You can get through it and find your new normal without your ex. Don’t give up! On those days when nothing seems to help, remind yourself that you are worth it. You’ve Got This!
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